I met Kirk and Donny from The Missingthread.com at my recent ERS workshop with David Neagle and was greatly impressed by these two kind and knowledgeable people. So I thought, with Christmas so close, an article from Donny about taking care of yourself and being your own best friend is just the right story to read:
“If you have ever been in an Intensive with us, you may find this scene all too familiar: you find yourself in the middle of a “story” that has been blocking you for years. Maybe it is the one about how one of your siblings treated you, which now affects your ability to ask for money. You want to know how to take the sting out of the story. Kirk or I will tell you to first breathe and then to find compassion with yourself. The first instruction is clear enough; you already know how to breathe. However, the second, finding compassion with yourself is a bit more challenging. “That’s easy for them to say,” you may think, “but how do I do that?”
I recall an incident some years ago that impressed me so much that I began seeing a therapist on a regular basis. I had just had a rocky break-up with a boyfriend after a yearlong relationship. Mutual friends of ours, who knew what had happened, invited me to their home for a party. After being there for a little while, my new ex showed up. These mutual friends had invited him as well, but didn’t think it was necessary to tell me my ex was also invited. Did I just get up and leave when he came through the door? No, I felt I had to stay and “be strong.” I felt I had to “take care of the hosts” and “be polite” by not leaving. I thought I should try to “make nice” even though I still was very angry with my ex.
During my first sessions with my therapist, as I went through this incident over and over again (along with similar incidences in my life where I did not take care of myself) the following occurred to me: what if I were my own best friend and I was at the party with “myself.” What would I do and say? Without a doubt, I would have grabbed my best friend by the arm and conducted him out of the party tout de suite and would have accepted no excuses from him to have it any other way. I would not have even bothered to say goodbye to the hosts. I would have taken him out to a local diner and fed him a nice meal of comfort foods. Afterwards, I would have taken him home and rubbed his feet and put him to bed with his favorite stuffed bunny! I would have checked in on him the next morning.”
“Dr. Kirk Prine and Donny Lobree, Body Story Experts, are founders of The Missing Thread. They are healers and entrepreneurs who help other entrepreneurs tap into the wisdom of their bodies to achieve greater abundance. “Mindset is not just in the mind, but in the Body as well.” To learn more, visit http://www.themissingthread.com to get your complimentary subscription to the Body Stories ezine.”
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